You can’t say that where I can hear you.

A friend apologized in a facebook post for her offensive language in a previous post that was about a certain Texas governor.

This friend is over 60. Perhaps she’s old enough to use whatever language she pleases.

But how much should we censor ourselves?

My friend isn’t a writer. She isn’t someone who needs to sell something or make fans.

But is there something that matters enough to you to lose readers over? Probably that sentiment is in your work, don’t you think?

Some people may not like you for opinions you didn’t even realize mattered. Admit your real feelings towards Harry Potter and who knows who will hate you.

Sometimes though, I resent the people I censor myself for–though that tends to be family. So many things I do not say around family, and it does drive me crazy. But I don’t want to be rude or cause a stir. And I do want to be respectful.

When and where do you censor yourself? How do you feel about it?

I love Harry Potter by the way.


5 responses to “You can’t say that where I can hear you.

  1. I’ve never read Harry Potter, or Lord of the Rings for that matter. Gasp! I consider – at 54 – that I’m entitled to say whatever I want given what I’ve suffered through. However, that doesn’t give me the right to insult other people or attack them or their opinions. An opinion is just that – an opinion. If I have a different opinion than someone, then I would hope we can agree to disagree. If I don’t like your post, I’ll most likely ignore it. If I don’t like your political or spiritual views, I try to keep my big mouth out of it! 🙂 I also think apologizing on line is rather tacky. If I offended someone – and know about it – I contact them directly.

    • Yes, I agree. An opinion is an opinion, but insults are something else. I certainly try not to insult people.

      My friend made the original offending post online, and so I expect the apology online felt like a public mea culpa. She may have also contacted the person offended directly. I don’t know. But she didn’t insult the person. She just used a four-letter word and some people were upset about it. This may also have to do with expectations. She is not someone who normally uses foul language and that took some people by surprise. And she has something of a good-girl complex.

      But we see all the time how a difference of opinion online devolves into a name-calling match. There are plenty of opinions I keep to myself, and that has good and bad things about it.

  2. Censoring yourself would be based your on conviction towards certain words or actions. Do as your conviction tells you, not what ppl tell you, cause its always good to stay true to yourself.

    • Sometimes those conviction conflict. I believe in not upsetting my elders, but also believe I have a right to speak my mind. And sometimes the right thing is easy to see, and sometimes it isn’t.

      • I guess you have to find the balance between the two convictions. Speak your mind in a way that it is not upsetting to your elders. Word play you know. haha.

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